The Flickering Light – Introduction
Death is nothing anyone wants to talk about, but it is something we all face. Whether it is with a loved one or someone famous who dies tragically, death is simply a part of life. Too many of us are afraid of it. Facing it does not diminish the difficulties of accepting it, but it does alleviate some of the unknowns.
As a friend once said, “I do not say he ‘passed’. He ‘died’. Because that is what happens to us.” Depending on your culture and your belief system (or lack of one), you may see death as simply a transition, or you may see it with finality. Either way, it is what it is.
This book is about how we can learn to accept the concept of death with grace and humility and even with a bit of humor. The concept of death is something we can intellectually accept, though few of us can emotionally or mentally process. Certainly it is typically not anything most of us contemplate on a daily, weekly, or monthly basis. For others, it is a constant. It is a reminder every day that this one could be our (or our loved one’s last). Perhaps we (or they) have an illness or participate in a dangerous sport or job. Regardless, the end result is the same.
Death happens to us all. And it is truly one of the very few things we must do on our own; at least part of it. Some of the process can be shared. When someone dies, those around them are often at a different place. Not everyone will be in obvious stages of grief. This is also true for those who slowly die in front of us. For those who care for and live with the dying, they are processing death constantly. For those who visit or periodically see the dying, they are processing death a bit at a time. Either way, those left behind are dealing with death on their own terms and in their own way and in their own time.