Are You Ready to Die?

Posted on July 16, 2014 by Tanya

I realize this is a difficult question to hear much less to think about, but it IS a reality. The unfortunate thing is no one plans for it. Truthfully, it will not affect us. We will be dead. It is our loved ones who will have to deal with all the repercussions of our unwillingness to face the obvious.

This became so clear to me as I was going through my parent’s things with my Mom. Thankfully, she is highly organized! I asked her to show me where things are kept – wills, powers of attorney, extra checks, log in information, statements, keys… Since she handles all this for her and my Dad, if something happened to her first, he would not know where these things are. My sisters and I will need to step in to help him.

The conversation is not easy to initiate, but wow what a great feeling it is to have and it. I know where my Mom keeps all their important papers and how to access her accounts when needed. The last thing I care to be concerned about when she is either ill or dying is how to pay her cable bill. I want to spend that time caring for her and loving on her. And, I want to feel free to enjoy both my parents for as long as I can.

Thanks to my Mom, my sisters and I can do just this. What an amazing a selfless gift she has given us! Now, that is true love.

Nine months from today is National Healthcare Decisions Day. This day, April 16th, is about having these conversations and getting your advance directives completed. Consider marking your calendar for an event near you.

Once you complete your advance directives, plan to get all your other important papers together for your loved ones by using The HAINES System™ This is a simple yet comprehensive system to guide you through collecting all your important documents and detailed information associated with them in one place. You can then tell your family, friends, professionals that you have completed your system and it is all easy to see and follow. It takes the worry out of the process.

Retire the Worry, Not Your Life!™

Alzheimer’s Disease – Prepare Now

Posted on July 3, 2014 by Tanya

The Center for Outreach in Alzheimer’s, Aging and Community Health is looking toward our future. With the aging Baby Boomer’s there will be a “silver tsunami” coming. Through a grant from Merck, NC A&T State University’s College of Arts and Sciences is working to address the concerns about this debilitating and devastating disease through education, advocacy, and research.


Alz Warning Signs     Alz Warning Signs P2

It is important that we all complete our advance directives before we need them. My Grandmother died with Alzheimer’s and I am so glad she had our GG to care for her and she had her paperwork completed. This allowed us all to focus on her care, loving her, supporting GG, and then grieving her when she died. It was a wonderful gift for my Mom and the rest of us.

Visit the National Healthcare Decisions Day website for ideas on how to start this conversation with those you love.

Visit The HAINES System on my website for help with gathering, organizing, and maintaining your documents or call (252) 665-3424.

Perfect Pantry – Almost!

Posted on July 1, 2014 by Tanya

Perfect Pantry

My Mom and I decided that since I managed to get my Dad’s workshop under control (see Organized Hoarder – for Real!), we would work on her pantry (see Organizing the Organized). Though neither needed a lot, the point is that they both needed some help. They are both highly organized people in all aspects of their lives, but even they benefited from having someone else (even their daughter) look at their projects with a different eye.

Even we organizers look for others to help us out. We are constantly learning from others and working to improve our businesses, client satisfaction, and yes, even our personal lives. But, it does not have to be a perfect solution. It just needs to be a solution for you!

I think people often look at an endeavor or project or need as an all or nothing. Either “I have to do it and do it just right” or “I need to find the time first”. We have all said these things and felt this stress. What we need to do is give ourselves a break and allow things to not be perfect, but perfect for us.

So start with something small. I often encourage people to just pick ONE drawer in ONE room and start with that. If you only clear out some trash, some papers, some re-arranging, that is more than you had done before and it is a start. When you next look in that drawer you will be reminded that you really can do it – and be happy with your efforts!

What are you going to do next? What can you do to clear the clutter from your home, office, life, mind, body? Go for it!!!